Security over Vitality
I’m studying Structural Integration right now or Rolfing as it’s commonly called. As we all know, the body is an incredibly complex organism with a healing intelligence well beyond our understanding.
My teacher, David Davis, was discussing what happens in the body when it is injured, specifically how the body splints itself with extra fascia. Let’s say you’ve had surgery or tweaked your back. Your body responds to the injury by laying down tendrils of fascia that connect to nearby areas, usually areas with big strong stable bones. He mentioned, “the body sacrifices resiliency for stability anytime it finds the need.” In other words, the body sacrifices range of motion, flexibility, or even vigor in order to maintain a sense of stability.
Well, duh. And, wow.
One, isn’t it amazing that we do that? Our bodies instinctively choose security again and again until we’re strong enough to move forward.
Two, my body isn’t the only one that does that. I do that.
I’ve spent countless hours looking for jobs I knew I wouldn’t like, for the security of a certain income. I’ve kept my thoughts to myself for fear of making someone angry, for social security. I’ve looked away from some desires in order to maintain relationship security, too.
What are the reasons I sacrifice vitality for someone or something else?
Is it because of pain? My teacher asks his clients that present with pain, “is this a hanging-on or letting-go kind of pain?” Now, there’s a question for the ages. Both feel rotten, but as least there’s a chance for something new on the other side of letting-go.
Being pain-free often seems like an attractive alternative, but discomfort heals, too. Standing on a replaced knee is painful at first, but it needs to be done or else you lose mobility. Unapologetically communicating my needs, desires, and emotional truth requires the same courage, strength and willingness to bear some pain.
So, I need to ask myself, when and for what reasons do I choose security over all else? Absolutely, there are times when this choice is necessary, but for whose benefit am I making that choice?